Link Correction!

To purchase my latest book release, Shear Magic, here is the correct link: http://www.thewildrosepress.com/shear-magic-p-1262.html


Lori

New Book TODAY!!!!

My new romance comes out today. Here's the info if you want to check it out:

http://www.thewildrosepress.com/shear-magic-p-1262.html?zenid=19abf5eedbf353a5cd97e65473788a7d

Take Heed!

Great quote today! "Odd how the creative power at once brings the whole universe to order." Virginia Woolf

What this means for those of you afraid to dip into the dating pool, is go for it. Be creative in your thinking. More open minded. Take a teeny, yet safe chance. Step one toe out of your box!

Soon, your universe will be in order--and you'll be dinning with the one you love!

DGL

Ugly Guy Award!

I just created a new award. It is the "Ugly Guy Award" and is NOT based on looks. It is for losers. I just nominated one tonight. That is the award up above.

A guy emails me today to meet. We talk on the phone. We set up a time to meet for a drink at a very nice, fancy restaurant for around 6:30. He texts me to change it to 9. I say that is too late. He says 8:30. We agree. At 8:05 I am dressed, washed hair, fresh makeup and clean clothes! (Okay that should be a given when boomerating). He TEXTS me to say he has to cancel. No phone call-the coward! No reason-the jerk!

So, I tell my male friend who is now on his way over to take me for a ride in his convertible Mercedes to go get a drink. Now I didn't wash my hair for nothing! But, the caveat is that I he does not want to hear "one peep about my hair getting messed up!" LOL That's what friends are for.

DGL

New Romance Release!

Just to show you that love conquers all!



If you want to beat the crowds and pre-order my June 3 release, SHEAR MAGIC, go to this link:

http://www.amazon.com/Shear-Magic-Lori-Avocato/dp/1601545290/ref=sr_11_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1242402556&sr=11-1

Thanks. Hope you enjoy!

DGL

DGL Poll

I need some feedback. I redid my Dating Guru Lori website. How does it look? Most importantly is it easy enough to read? Thanks!

http://www.datingguruloriavocato.com/

Great Advice!

Today's quote is a beauty! "Do not be in a hurry to succeed. What would you have to live for afterwards? Better make the horizon your goal; it will always be ahead of you." How cool is that to relate it to dating? Don't be in a hurry to meet Mr/Ms. Right. Enjoy the process/dating to find that special one. We all know the cliche about how many frogs we have to kiss, but if we make it more palatable i.e. you have to drink a lot of cups of coffee to meet your soulmate!

DGL

Boomerating update

Date #9 tomorrow night with the same guy. How the time flies buy. I'm looking forward to it. Enjoyed last Friday at the dueling piano bar in New Haven.

If you are on the fence about whether to date again, or to start at any age, let me tell you--it is fun--if you make it that way. Boomers need to have a positive attitude (of course we do. We've got too much negativity going on in our lives right now! Can't retire when we wanted/planned to. So, why not go to dinner with an adult and have some adult conversation that does not involve: finances, you did this, you did that, kids, finances, ex-mates, kids, finances, kids etc!!!) about the process. If you go on a first meeting (I don't consider this a date) then make the most of it even if you don't "click" with the person. Enjoy the process!!!!

DGL

Dating Questions! Answer at your own risk!

There will be a timely/online discussion on www.datinggurulori.com of how the damn economy affects dating. Your dating. Does it affect it? If you are a Boomer and can't retire when you planned to, do you still date? Want to date but can't afford too? Need a small loan to afford dinner and a movie nowadays? Does the current state of the economy change what you expect, and where you go? Have you given up dinning at the Ritz for brown bags in the park? (Sidebar: that could be very romantic and fun and inexpensive--if it is not raining! Try it!) Does the poor state of the economy make you want to not even try dating again? OR, MORE IMPORTANTLY, ARE YOU JUST USING IT AS ANOTHER EXCUSE NOT TO GO ONLINE AND MEET GET A DATE!? Ah, ha! I thought so! We need to talk.

Send your comments to me at: datinggurulori@yahoo.com

Or leave a comment here. All comments can be/or might be used in discussion but always anonymously.

DGL

Dating advice working!

Okay. I got a female friend of mine to sign up for Match.com This Sat. she has her first date! See, kids, it can be done. She's 47 and hasn't dated in years! This means you can do it too. You can boomerate! (Boomer Date!)

I "encouraged" her to go online, worked on her profile with her, and she got a few interests.

This invite is to a nice restaurant! So, now the planning begins. How to look thinner. How to dress to look thinner. What to eat to look as if you always eat that way since you are much thinner than you used to be! lol

By the way, always remember the "that is why the make chocolate AND vanilla ice cream." Not everyone wants thin, blond, brunette, bald, beard or not (well, maybe if you are a woman) etc. My motto is there is someone out there for all of us but like the lotto: You can't win if you don't play!

This is the fun part too. The anticipation. The waiting. The "something to look forward to!"

Go for it.

Send me some emails of your dates good or bad! Send to: datinggurulori@yahoo.com

DGL

My New Website!

Just got my new website for Dating Guru Lori up! Check it out and let me know what you think.

http://www.datingguruloriavocato.com/

If you are afraid to venture out into the dating world, read my site. That is a lot of advice and will be more and more and more.

I don't think I'll ever run out of advice!

Lori

Suffering and Dating

The daily quote says: "Suffering predisposes the mind to devoutness." He's got to be talking about dating! Especially dating once again. LOL

I'm guessing the suffering part comes from all the frogs you have to kiss to meet your prince or princess.

I'll tell you, when I first did online dating, I was AMAZED at how many guys there were just withing my 40 mile ranges! I was like a kid in the candy store.

BUT, then I quickly found out that it increased the odds of: meeting more wackos, meeting more guys to find one to go out with, and then it really did increase the odds of meeting that special one.

So, kiddos, we all have to "suffer" through the process to reap the end results. BUT, my suggestion is to enjoy the process. Don't let it be work. Don't let it be boring. Don't let it be a chore. Find the good in everything. Even a cup of coffee with someone you don't "click" with but who you do spend an hour with. There's got to be ONE positive you can take from the experience even if it's just: he paid for your tea or she paid for your coffee!

DGL

This one needs Dating Guru Lori (DGL)!

Sharing this email with you kiddos:

About 4 years ago I was asked out by a friend of a friend. He was funny, charming, great talker and HOT to boot. So Saturday comes around and I don't hear from him. I'm sad but whatever. Three weeks later a lady comes into the store where I work and asks me if my name is (whatever). I say "Yes". She then asks if I know (whoever) and I say "Yes I do. Is everything ok?" She says "No. I'm (whoever)'s mom. He asked me to come tell you sorry he missed the date. He was involved in a drunk driving accident the Friday before. He is now in jail. This is his third offense." All I could do was say "Ok, thanks for telling me. Nice to meet you, by the way." This is just the kind of crap that happens to me. So now I just don't date.

I told her to get back on that horse. The universe saved her from falling madly in love with a criminal. She should be glad! That is GOOD luck! Think POSITIVE.

DGL

And the Survey Says

I'm here after my foray into the online dating gig--making me...er... an "expert." LOL

I'd like to add some real life stories of anyone, their friends, their families etc who have had nightmare/humorous/or just entertaining dates! Send them to the email I set up for this: datinggurulori@yahoo.com

All submissions will be used at Lori's discretion, edited for length if needed or for content (if needed!)

Thanks.

Lori, the supposed Dating Guru!

Chocolate and Vanilla Ice Cream

Once I had a realtor who, after I said I loved a house and my husband said he hated it, said, "That is why they make chocolate and vanilla ice cream."

That statement has served me well (no pun intended. I actually don't like chocolate ice cream) in my dating world. If an online guy doesn't click for me or I don't click for him, I don't get upset. I merely think, "That is why they make chocolate and vanilla ice cream." Although in all honesty sometimes I add a "damn, but I kinda liked chocolate this time!" But, then I'm back to the dating site and winking and emailing other lucky prospects. You have to develop a tough skin when dating. Rejection is part of life as it is in my writing world. Never easy but you pop a Prozac and you can deal. Or, you learn to toughen up without drugs.

We all need a positive--gee this is fun!-attitude even if your ice cream has melted on the last one thousand dates.

I met a nice guy last weekend. We had a good time. Neither of us rushed off with an "I think I left the iron on excuse" and we were both busy all week. He email that he had fun and we'd talk later.

He never wrote back.

So, not one to stand on ceremony (or be known for my patience) I emailed him with my usual, "Please let me know if you changed your mind so I don't keep emailing thinking you were killed in some meteor accident" note (I often want to say, "So I don't waste my freaking time writing to you anymore! but I hold back on that).

He did rely with "I've changed my direction." Direction? What the heck am I? The Interstate of XX Chromosomes?

I gave him credit for at least responding and said my usual, "No problem. That is why they make chocolate and vanilla ice cream."

Oh, being Catholic, I have to confess, I also said, "Besides, I just went on a seventh date with someone this weekend anyway!" (Okay, it was only five but seven sounded a lot more impressive to me)

So there!

Lori

Boomating.

If you can relate to that picture above, you should know the definition of "Boomating."

Baby Boomer + Dating = Boomating.

You heard it here first, kids!

Lori--The Dating Guru

Quote

What an appropriate quote of the day about love. Read it. Digest it. And then decide that you want to jump into the dating pool!

Lori

Viva la Differance!

Clearly there is a difference between men and women. That's why she's pink and he is blue and, more importantly, that is why there is a line between them!

But, we still want to co-mingle with the opposite sex. Seems like the thing to do and it's a heck of a lot of fun and better conversion than with relatives or kids--especially teens.

I've come to the conclusion that: Men are from Pluto and Women are from Rodeo Drive! I know a lot of you women at thinking, Yeah. Guys are from Pluto thus the dog was named after it! I'm guessing that'd be those of you who come from crumby past relationships. But, let's start from scratch here. Give life a chance. They aren't all dogs. Really!

And for you guys, all women are not shoppers (I personally hate to shop and often bring home clothing without trying it on only to have to return it. Sigh. Still, I'm not a shopper), spendthrifts and self-centered bitches. Okay. Okay. There may be a certain percentage that fit those descriptions but if you have a past of any of these kinds of women, now is the time to give life a new shot.

Sign up for an online dating service. It's like being a kid in a candy store.

I'm going to go into more depth in the future and soon my website will be up.

If you have any questions or comments, feel free to leave them here.

Lori

Welcome!

I'm Lori Avocato. A published author. Here's my official bio so you'll know who you are talking to:

After serving in the Air Force as a nurse, Lori Avocato decided to write a humorous romantic mystery series for Avon Books. She is a member of, Romance Writers of America, RomVets, PASIC, NINC, The Author’s Guild and Sisters in Crime.

Her Pauline Sokol Mystery Series is a perfect medium for Lori’s quick wit. She has made the best-selling suspense/thriller list on Amazon(same time as Stephen King!) among many other contest wins. Visit Lori at: www.loriavocato.com.

Her sidesplitting novels featuring Pauline Sokol have been called “delightful” by PW and her experience as a nurse allows Avocato to infuse fast-paced plots with authentic medical details.

Lori has returned to her romance roots with three sales to The Wild Rose Press. Release. She also writes another blog, a hysterical daily blog (Mon-Fri) in which her humor about everyday life will have you laughing—and, as Lori says, “Laughter is the best medicine.”

She also helps other writers through her editorial/consultation service, Write Right, which can be found on her website.

Check out her website and blog: www.loriavocato.com and www.loriavocato.com/blog

Now the reason I created "Confessions of a Serial First Dater Blog"

I've set up this blog for all the singles people, both men and women of the world!!!! After being a single mom(whose kids are now out of the house--proving there is a god!) I started online dating after TWELVE years of NO dates. That's right. Twelve years. No dates. The never been kissed scenario.

And, I must say, I have become quite an expert in the field of online dating.

Please make sure you are sitting down for this one. I joined a major online dating service. Okay. Fine you say. That's common. BUT, when I looked at who was available in a forty mile radius of my house, I was like the proverbial kid in the candy store. So many choices! (Sadly so many to pick from since divorce is rampant, but it is what it is). And I loved the odds.

So, and this is the part you need to sit for: I went on ONE HUNDRED THIRTEEN FIRST DATES IN NINE MONTHS. Lest you think I'm some kind of slut (which I am not. Catholic girl. Nurse. Mom. Non-slut.) I only went on NINE second dates though.

There's good reasons for all of this and I'll explain down the road.

In the meantime, know that you have come to the right place and the right person to get you back into the dating game--even if you insist that you really don't want to. That's usually because of "fear of the unknown." We've all used that excuse one time or other.

I'll get you past that.

Believe me. I did. Remember TWELVE years.

So, welcome and feel free to comment.

Lori